Is Your Relationship Worth Salvaging? - Things To Consider

Are you now considering whether you should try to save the relationship or not? In deciding this, ask yourself these questions : Do you have frequent fights with your spouse? Does it take just a little spark to start a major encounter? Do you have disagreements over the most trivial things? Are you more and more sleeping in separate bedrooms because you cannot stand lying beside each other after a quarrel?

In answering the above questions, be honest with yourself. Maybe, in your effort to try to save the relationship, you have tried to work out the problem by yourselves but your efforts have all proven futile. Or maybe you have talked it over with your spouse but each conversation you have only leads to more arguments and instead of getting the issues resolved, the situation is only getting worse. You may now be feeling hopeless and feeling that you will never be able to save the relationship and get back the love into the marriage.

You must realize that you are not the only one in this situation. There are numerous couples out there suffering from marriage troubles and are seeking for ways to save the relationship. And some have also plunged into feelings of desperation because nothing that they do ever seems to be working.

Then where do you go if you are in this situation? Ask for marriage help and advice in if you really want to save the relationship. After you have tried everything by yourselves and nothing seems to be working, it is time to consider seeking outside help for your marriage problems. Before things really get out of hand and reach a point where nothing can be salvaged, seek help.

There a many resources available for you to tap that can help you save the relationship.

You can start with getting help from your family. Since your family knows you and/or your spouse well, they can inject some insights that can help you and your spouse really into root cause of your problems and pinpoint possible solutions to save the relationship.

A good indicator in deciding what to do is your feelings. How have they changed since the beginning of the relationship? Do you often feel depressed, lonely or exhausted by arguments, conflict and lack of understanding? If you have answered yes to these questions then you should do something about it immediately. The longer you continue to be unhappy the bigger the chance that things will get worse and the damage will be irreparable. No one deserves to be in an unhappy relationship, but there are certain things that you can do to make your situation better and take proactive action.

Counseling is one and could be one of the most effective ways to deal with your problems and resolve them. Quality marriage advice from a professional can bring out the issues on the table and help you and your spouse tackle them. Having a third person who can arbitrate your discussions is one effective way of dealing with the problem in a more unbiased manner and achieve better results in your attempt to save the relationship.

Seek advice from your pastor. He can infuse spiritual guidance in your discussions and provide inspiration to you and your spouse. Maybe a retreat will be effective for you and your spouse to enable you to search your inner self in a serene and peaceful atmosphere. A change in scene may be able to help you get away from the stresses of everyday life and give you a better view as you try to save the relationship with your spouse.

One of the easiest and cost effective ways is to seek help online. It is one of the most preferred ways these days. There are plenty of resources available online, from articles to ebooks. And these resources cover almost all areas of married life and the issues couples are facing today.

But a word of caution though. Be discerning when you look for resources online. Check out the author's credentials and their success rates in resolving marriage and relationship conflicts. And by credentials we don't mean having doctorates or master's degrees in relationship counseling. The most effective methods come from persons who have been in the same situation as you are in now and have been successful when they undertook to save the relationship with their spouse.

Be more proactive today and start seeking help. It is only if you exert effort to save the relationship will you be able to reap success.

Still don't know whether you should stay or go or save the relationship? This guide can help you decide if all is lost or things can be salvaged:
'Should I Stay Or Should I Go?'

How To Get A Guy To Propose

Learning how to get a guy to propose to you can mean the difference between walking down the aisle with the man you adore and spending years in limbo wondering where your relationship is headed. It is possible for a woman to make her boyfriend want to get married, even if he claims to be commitment phobic. If you’re involved with a man like this you need to understand exactly what steps you should be taking to make him feel compelled to want a more serious commitment with you.
Here are a few ways which can help you to get your guy to propose:

• Hint subtly when you want your man to notice
  When you want a man to propose to you, you can’t wake up in the morning and land that bomb on him. Start with giving him subtle hints such as leaving magazine articles about marriage and couples on his dining table. Don’t go so far as to lay out bridal magazines or pictures of wedding bands since this will scare your man off.
• Show him that other men are giving you a lot of attention
  Another way to wake your man up is by showing him that there are other men who are giving you a lot of attention. Say it all as if it is a big joke to you. But he will know that he has competition now and has to make his move fast.
• Get his friends and family to adore you
  When your man’s friends and family like you then half your job is done. Get talking on someone’s wedding and the topic will immediately drift to you. All you need to do is say that your man hasn’t said anything yet. They will all automatically get into action to get your man’s mind around marriage.
• Bring him home to meet your family during an important family event.
  By inviting him to an important family event you communicate subliminally to him that you think he is very special to you, and that you want him to meet those who are most important in your life.
• Start talking about the future generally
  You need to start talking about the future assuming that the two of you are going to eventually get married. Make it seem like the most natural progression and ask him if he wants to make a joint investment etc. He will get the message as to what you want.
• Don’t force him to propose
  Keep the pressure off of your man when it comes to getting him to propose. The last thing that you want is to come across as a woman who is trying to take away his freedom. Don’t assume that your man is on the same page as you are just because you are ready for marriage. Talk to him about it, but remember not to try to push him into making a decision about whether he will or will not propose to you. Instead give him his space and encourage him to do well without putting any pressure on him. That will make him see that you are too good to let go of.
• Make him miss you
  At times you need to play some mind games to make things go in your favor. Go away for a little while and make your man miss you. Give him the feeling that unless you are married to each other you have the freedom to walk away whenever you want to.
• Point out the positives of getting married to you
  Lastly show him how getting married to you is a good idea. Point him a good picture about marriage and its positives such as additional benefits etc and get him to propose to you.
• If you have tried talking to him with little to no results, then try asking one of his friends if your man has cold feet about marriage.
  Do it discreetly and as nicely as possible so that when his friend relays the conversation you won’t seem like you are marriage crazy. Either he will see that you are serious about moving forward and hopefully talk to you about his thoughts on the subject matter.
• Give him a lot of freedom.
  Never give him a hard time about hanging out with his friends. Sooner or later he will realize that he has a good thing going and will not want to lose you. And certainly the only way he will get to keep you all to himself is by proposing marriage to you.
• If all else has fails, then ask him if he thinks of you as the kind of girl he could marry someday.
  At least this way if he answers no and you still want to get married you will stop wasting your time and find another guy who is ready to settle down with you.

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